People who treat others as villains gather together.
And lies get mixed in there.
Distortions of the facts get mixed in there.
And the process of turning someone into a villain advances.
When it escalates further, it reaches demonization.
Since I was a child, I have lived with experiences of being treated as a villain through such cunning methods.
And it wasn’t just my family—I was also treated as a villain by many other adults.
That’s why I think I was able to notice the abnormality of the NPD demonization problem earlier than anyone else.
I didn’t figure this out later through logic.
I understood it much earlier, instinctively.
Oh, this is happening again.
The same structure is at work again.
Someone is once again cynically mixing lies and distortions to make another person look like a villain.
I have seen those facts.
As a child, I didn’t have the power to bring that to light.
So I gave up and drifted into delinquency, acting tough.
One thing became very clear to me through my own experience.
That is that many of the people who treated me as a villain—even lying to do so—were hiding their own guilt.
Of course, this is not something that can be generalized in every case.
I’m not saying that this was true in every single situation.
But at least in my case, I was able to confirm this many times in reality.
In other words, the more someone was hiding their own guilt, the more strongly they tended to treat me as a villain.
I have seen this many times in my life.
So when someone persistently treats one person as a villain, I don’t just believe their words.
What are they hiding?
What are they trying to divert attention away from?
I naturally developed the habit of looking there.
But there is something truly important here.
Even if someone is cunning and wicked, using sophisticated methods to spread high-level lies and falsehoods,
not everyone is swept up by the side that turns people into villains.
That is where hope lies.
From what I have seen, if there are ten people, maybe one.
Or one person among several dozen.
At that kind of rate, people who see the essence begin to appear.
No matter how deceived those around them are.
No matter how skillfully the people doing the vilifying mix lies, distort things, and manipulate impressions.
Even so, there are people who see through it.
Not because they can explain everything with knowledge.
Not because they read the studies.
At a deeper level, there are people who understand the truth in their hearts.
In my life, I have often been saved by such people.
This was when I was in the third year of middle school.
I was treated as a villain by an adult.
To be fair, I did have a small bad side too.
But using that part to their advantage, the adult added lies, distorted things, and spread the story around as if I were a one-sided villain.
What’s more, that adult also had problems of their own.
In fact, I also had some victim-like aspects myself.
And yet, I was treated as if I alone were completely in the wrong.
At that time, a senior one year above me truly got angry for my sake.
They got angry on my behalf.
And then they went to shout at that adult.
How can you say such horrible things?
I still can’t forget it.
Honestly, I was happy.
At that moment, I felt, “So there really are human beings.”
There are people who look properly.
There are people who truly try to see the truth.
That made me incredibly happy.
Back then, I was in a sense used to being treated as a villain.
I was so used to it that I actually turned it around inside myself.
If trash like that is going to treat me like a villain, then that’s practically a medal.
Go ahead and keep trying, you bastard.
That’s probably how I felt, even if I couldn’t yet put it into words.
But looking back now, that was also a form of bravado.
Of course, behind it all, I was deeply hurt.
If I had allowed myself to feel that wound as it was, I wouldn’t have been able to hold together.
So I acted tough.
So I pushed back.
So I pretended I was fine.
But in truth, I wasn’t fine.
That someone had gotten angry for my sake was, in the end, a real救い.”
I have had this kind of thing happen many times in my life.
For example, when I was arrested, too.
The interviewer at the juvenile classification home looked at me and said:
You’re not a bad person.
I think they saw my essence.
And they also clearly said that the environment was bad, and the people around me were bad.
They even said that if possible, they wanted to send me to the best juvenile training school.
There are adults like that, too.
Also, after I escaped from the juvenile training school, even at the transfer destination, people appeared who could still see me properly.
Even though they weren’t my homeroom teacher, they kept sticking close to me in the best sense.
They confronted me seriously.
At times, they even worried about me while crying.
There are people like that.
People who see the essence.
People who try to see the truth.
Such people appeared from time to time in my life.
How much that meant to me.
I truly think it was something to be deeply grateful for.
To be honest, I think the treatment I received as a villain was quite intense.
Villainization.
Devaluation.
Distortion.
Lies.
Psychological manipulation.
Villainization and devaluation within the family.
I was subjected to quite a lot of that.
If there had truly been no one in all of that who could see my essence.
I think I would have become much more corrupted.
I might have become even worse.
I think there was even a possibility I could have become a cruel person.
But I was spared that.
That’s because, several times in my life, I met people who truly saw the truth.
I think the reason I was able to avoid completely abandoning my conscience was because of their presence.
Because thanks to them, I knew that conscience exists in this world, outside myself.
So when I saw the NPD demonization problem, I understood it right away.
Ah, something similar is happening again.
It’s happening on a larger scale than what happened in my family.
Once again, someone is being judged by impression rather than essence.
Once again, someone is being painted over as a convenient bad presence.
Once again, lies, distortions, and group psychology are mixing together, and one human being is being consumed as something “bad.”
That’s how it looked to me.
And I could not participate in that.
If something is wrong, it’s wrong.
If something is dirty, it’s dirty.
If something is shameful, it’s shameful.
I cannot be dyed by that.
That is the kind of person I have lived as.
Of course, being treated as a villain itself was a painful experience.
If possible, maybe it would have been better not to have had such experiences at all.
But now I think about it this way.
Because I had those experiences, I was able to gain a valuable perspective that ordinary people would not have.
The structure on the side that turns others into villains.
Its cunning.
Its lies.
Its distortions.
Its tendency to form mobs.
And the existence of people who do not get swept up in it, but instead see the essence.
I have seen all of that through my own life.
That’s why I think I was able to notice the abnormality of the NPD demonization problem at an early stage.
And what I want to say strongly now is this.
No matter how many people are deceived.
No matter how skillfully the process of vilification is carried forward.
Even so, people who see the essence will always appear, is what I believe.
There are people who understand the truth in their hearts.
That is why there is hope.
Now research is beginning to cut into the NPD demonization problem, and the issue is starting to become visible.
In this world, there are courageous adults who can properly see the essence in the details.
I have confirmed that many times in my own life.
So I still believe it now.
I think that as long as a person has not completely lost hope in this world, they can never become truly demonic, no matter how deeply they are hurt.
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